My daughter Ruby recently completed her two years of treatment for Leukaemia. This story, that was published on Mamamia, offers some top tips from Ruby about what she has learned (she is only 6) and what I, as a cancer mum, have discovered.
My advice for any mum in the same position
Allow yourself to feel. If you feel sad, then cry. If you are angry, then scream. If you are happy, then laugh. Don’t pretend you are okay when you are not.
Don’t be too proud to ask for help. We all need help sometimes, and there are so many people out there that want to help ease your pain.
Say thank you. Many jobs are thankless, particularly in the children’s oncology ward. Remember to thank the remarkable doctors and nurses, as well as volunteers.
Don’t wait for the right time. There is never a perfect time for a holiday or celebration. You will never have enough money saved up, or your children will never be at that perfect travelling age. Act now because you can’t be sure what tomorrow brings.
Appreciate the stress of normal life. Whether it be a big deadline at work or a demanding client; the kids not doing their homework, spending too much time on technology, or just the crazy pace of everyday life. It’s not until you are faced with an illness like cancer that you miss the normal life stresses and strangely long for their return.
Growing old is a privilege. Don’t take old age for granted. If you are lucky enough to get there, embrace your older self and celebrate. As Ruby’s treatment ends, we feel very hopeful for Ruby’s future. Every child deserves hope